The relationship game

So me and a male friend of mine were talking about the fact that I can’t seem to find me a good man. We came to the conclusion that I either need to learn household chores or get hella rich to impress a guy… In the first place I was like whatever of course, I’m not the cleaning, cooking, washing clothes kind of chick (I got my mom doing all that stuff for me) and about being rich, well I’m not there yet. And secondly I was thinking why can’t a man just like me for who I am? I’m a fun loving girl with all sorts of different interests, I’m quite smart and don’t look too bad (allow me to say that about myself!). So what’s so terrible about all that that I can’t find a guy who’s interested?? Is it me or them? Anyway I started thinking about all of that and then I thought maybe my friend did have a point. When I look for a guy I also kind of hope that he can do some cleaning and cooking and stuff like that because if we ever were to move in with each other, I don’t want to be the one to do all that myself… So I can’t blame a guy for expecting the same from me, especially because women are ‘supposed to’ do all that stuff. And then I came to this thought that the relationship game is sort of like a market, the more you are worth, the more you will get in return. Let me try to explain this. I got to the thought that my ex-boyfriends did have a lot of flaws, not when it came to personality or whatever, but when it came to the perks of being in a relationship. But then I thought that I might have had the same flaws. So then I came to the conclusion that I had to up my own personal game to get a better man. I mean if I try to be the best woman that I can possibly be, I’ll find the best man there can possibly be for me. I just got to switch it all up; my looks (through work outs etc.), my intelligence (if that’s possible lol just kidding, do some more reading and stuff), my capability to do household chores (through watching what my mother does and copying! E.g. cooking, cleaning etc.) and on top of that I can get rich if I’d find the right job. When all that is at its highest level, I can have higher expectations for any possible mate, which is quite interesting. I can go for the handsome, intelligent, rich kind of guy and even expect to get him where I want him. But don’t get me wrong, it’s not like I’m doing all of this solely to get me a guy, I have to say it makes me feel quite good and generally happier and even if I don’t find my guy, at least I’ll look better, be smarter, be able to be a housewife and rich, all good.


Perfect example for my theory.